Hello MJE readers,
Please I really need you readers to advice me on a situation that is troubling me seriously.
I started dating someone this year though we have known each other for about 3 years and in those 3 years we have been close and he has always wanted a relationship from me but I had always turned him down because I was dating someone as at then.
The first issue I have with this guy is that he doesn’t really talk, like I want someone I’m in a relationship with to talk. When he calls, he only talks like 2mins on phone and that’s all. When we chat and I raise stuffs to talk about all I hear is ‘OK’, ‘yep’ and I have tried my best to really make him understand that I’m not comfortable with all of his response.
My mum and a sister says I should be patient that maybe that’s just him, that he would adjust but how long do I wait do I wait? Is it until he marries me and we have nothing to discuss in the house? No jokes, no communication and all, plus the only time he really opens up is when I hear ‘babe, am h0rny’……. Then we can chat from 10 till midnight. I really don’t know what to think of his behavior. I really need advice on how to handle it.
Secondly, it’s been 6 months that we startd the relationship and I don’t know anyone connected to him at his house. I don’t know and I’ve been asking him since May that I just want to know one person connected to you. Fine, I understand he doesn’t have friends but there must be one person I should know. BTW (by the way) he’s 26 and am 23.
Recently I had a dream where I saw that he was hiding me from his family and when I told my mum she said I should have known his house before accepting to date him.
Now I want to know when is the right time to know your boyfriend’s family. Is it after a year because he claims I’m expecting so much in a short time of which me am not ready to settle because me sef never settle; still running my masters and still need to work for a year before I can settle down but I just want to know just when is the right time to meet either his friends. I need just one, it’s OK for me. Is it now or when?
Again, we only get to see once in a while. I know he loves me and I know he is to busy to cheat on me but all these issues just make me tired of the whole relationship at times that I feel like ending it but I just think of the patience he had those years we were just friends and the fact that I have grown to love him. Pls i need advice from you guys.