I Slept with him, now he’s ignoring me – What do I do?

Dear MJ Family,

I meet a lot of guys but can’t ever keep them. I am very sexual and I feel like I may put out too fast. Most guys want that, but then that’s all they want. Can u sleep with a guy too quick and still squeeze a relationship out of it?

Well, I met this guy, “Derek,” and we went out and had a great time. I mean, he painted my toes, we shopped, watched a movie, and had a drink. You know, just chilling. That night I went home with a kiss and that’s it. I can tell he wanted more, but we left it at that and I felt good.

Over the next couple of days I didn’t hear from him, so I called Derek and he invited me over and I went. We laid in the bed and, you know, he tried touching me, but I stopped him. He got mad and I told him that I liked him and I didn’t want to move too fast. Derek made it seem like I was making it worse by not sleeping with him, so I did. Silly me, I know. And you know what, he still doesn’t call.

I finally talked to Derek and he says that he hopes I’m not the type of sensitive chick who wants to hear from the person she’s dating every day. Derek also said that he doesn’t hope I think he’s cheating because he doesn’t answer the phone. He said he can go days without hearing from me and be cool with that. However, that bothers me.

When I first met Derek he told me when he takes a girl out he likes for them to dress a certain way because he likes to dress himself. So, I dressed my ass off for our date and we go to a restaurant that looks almost like Mama-put. I’m like, ‘What the hell!’

I try to play it off and not call him because Derek says he doesn’t have to talk to me every day, but why won’t he call me? Should I move on? I just want a cool dude to kick it with but he is complicated. I feel like I mess up every relationship. When we do get together we have fun. Should I just close my mouth and not be too emotional? – Where To Go From Here